Aware, active, and adaptive technologies offer significant improvements in supporting older adults at home. In terms of elder care, privacy and security are both concerned with safety. A security system that does not allow individuals to guard themselves against data leaks and apps that exfiltrate data, on the basis that privacy and security are entirely distinct, does not address elder needs and is not elder centered. Apple and Google recognize in their permissions model that security and privacy are interrelated risks. Technologically mediated social interaction, however, introduces its own ethical concerns, including technical security, information privacy, risks associated with failure of one or more components of the service, and changes to the social system in which they are embedded. Communities can help each other determine how to roll out technologies, and how to share privacy settings, without sharing private information.